Do you TRUST yourself?
Self-trust is incredibly important, yet it can be a challenging thing. Especially if you’re the type of person who needs to know ALL of the steps right at the beginning and/or feels very uncomfortable (*ahem, afraid*) of the unknown.
Let’s take a couple of simple examples to get us started.
- You created a great social media post, but rather than posting it right away (or scheduling for a later time) you sit on it. Asking all of your friends and family for their input before you decide whether or not to share your thoughts with the world.
OR
- You’re newly texting with a guy or gal that you have a crush on and you immediately turn to your friends for advice on how to answer said crush’s message. (“What should I say??”)
I know what you’re thinking. “Sonia, these are examples of people seeking external validation. And to be honest, the scenarios are a bit.. juvenile.” (Inner critics can be harsh, no?!)
My response: You’re right!
These are absolutely examples of individuals needing external validation to live their lives. And it begs the question of WHY do they need external validation? What’s the deeper reason, the root cause?
People often seek out external validation because they lack the self-trust to validate themselves.
Trusting yourself to say the right thing, have a good idea, or make the “right” decision is crucial to living a fulfilling life. When it comes to navigating life changes, such as divorce, self-trust becomes even more important.
I strongly believe that EFT Tapping is one of the best tools to help build self-trust (along with self-worth and confidence). And I always recommend tapping with a certified EFT practitioner for this deeper work. However, what I will be sharing with you today is not a tapping exercise, but a simple exercise to help you tune into your inner guidance. To assist in self-validation and trust.
Ready? Let’s do it.
Step 1. Think of a small issue that you need or want to make a decision about (yes/no).
Step 2. Sit in a comfortable seat where your back is supported and take 3 slow deep breaths. (Inhale through the nose, exhale through the mouth)
Step 3. Ask your body / Spirit / inner guidance to show you what a “yes” feels like. Take another deep breath and let it go. Notice what sensations you feel in your body. Check in with your stomach, chest, and throat. Do they feel open? Constricted? Something else?
**NOTE: If you aren’t noticing any change in sensation, ask your body to exaggerate the “yes”, so there’s no guessing.
Step 4. Once you’ve experienced what a “yes” feels like in your body, repeat Step 3 to learn what a “no” feels like in your body.
Step 5. Ask your body to release back to neutral. Then ask your yes/no question. Take a slow deep breath and relax, holding the question in your mind. Allow your body to answer you. Try your best to be patient, as it may not be an instantaneous answer.
**NOTE: If you aren’t noticing anything, ask your body to exaggerate the answer, or answer you “louder”.
Step 6: Trust the answer you get! 😬
Occasionally, you may not get a detectable answer at all. And that’s okay! This doesn’t mean that you are doing anything wrong. Rather, it may be an indication that what you’re asking about is something you need to leave alone for a while and revisit later.
Remember, this exercise is to help you get in tune with yourself so you can start building trust in what your body tells you. Please do not try to treat this like a magic 8 ball for your life. I’ve tried 🤦♀️ and it doesn’t work that way, unfortunately.
Give this a whirl and let me know how it goes! I’d love to hear about your experience.
It’s possible to trust yourself and your own inner voice over the noise of the outside world. If you’d like some 1-on-1 guidance with this, let’s chat! Schedule your free connection call and we’ll discuss the best path forward for your unique situation.